Why kids should have chores
As parents we always want the best for our kids. We try to do everything we can to make sure they are growing up in a way that will help them be awesome adults someday. We want them to be happy and have everything they could possibly need or want in life. As babies, we must cater to their every need. They are helpless and we must make sure that they are comfortable and have everything they need. But as our children grow, they are able to do more and more things for themselves. They are becoming individual little human beings. And it is our job as parents to give our children the skills they need to go out into the world self-sufficient and able to take it on. I see chores as a way to prepare our children to become young adults.
You wouldn’t say your 9-year-old is helpless, would you?
So why do so many of us let them go through life without doing chores and contributing to the household?
Top 6 reasons why you should give your kids chores:
Chores give children precious skills they will need to survive by themselves.
We all want our children to leave our home one day ready for their life as an adult. But how are they going to know how to do the basics in life like, dishes, washing a load of laundry, sweeping and mopping the floor or mowing the lawn, if we never show them how to do it? When I was a shift manager in college for a local restaurant, I had 16 year olds come to work not knowing how to use a broom and mop! Now I’m suppose to teach them??!! I can only imagine what their first apartment will look like! Unless, you really want to clean your child’s house and do their laundry when they are 24 years old, a few chores now will show them how to do these things themselves.
It boosts self-esteem
Children want to be able to do things on their own. They want to feel grown up. By giving your child chores, you help to build their self-esteem, by giving them a reason to feel proud. When they complete a chore and you are proud of them, they will be proud of themselves.
It shows them to be responsible and helps with time management.
Giving kids chores will help them learn responsibility. Children need to learn that they must do things for themselves in order for them to happen. By having them do chores they learn that mom and dad will not always be there and they will have to one day do these things themselves or they just wont get done. It also helps with teaching time management. By setting a time for your child to have their chores done by, it shows them how to manage their time in order to do all the things they need to do. This is huge in the real world.
It gives them a sense of what hard work and accomplishment is.
Children feel a sense of accomplishment when they do something all by themselves, without the help of an adult. Doing chores shows them that working hard will pay off. We want our children to know that nothing is handed to them in the world and you have to work hard in order to have the things we want.
It shows them that the world isn’t all about them and they must help to make their home what they want it to be.
Doing chores will help them to learn that we sometimes have to do things we don’t want to do, in order to make our lives the best they can be. That the whole family will benefit from the things they do. It will help them to take pride in their things by taking care of them.
It helps them feel more connected to the family unit
Giving our children chores isn’t about being mean or making them do what we don’t want to. (Although, they will say you are mean many times when making them do their chores!) It is about being a part of a family and helping that family be all it can be. When the parents can spend less time doing household chores, that means more time to spend doing fun things with the kids.
I think one of the greatest things you can do for your kids is to give them chores. Although, they won’t think so. And sometimes it is just plain painful to watch them struggle doing something for 20 minutes that you could have just done yourself in 5. We cannot hold their hands and coddle them for the rest of their lives. They will soon turn into young adults and leave our homes. I think giving them some chores now will prepare them to do just that.